For those who know me - no chock that I am Dominant.
I once read a great article about being a slave, but I dont remember where or who wrote it. Anyone who read this and recognize it, give me a sign so I can credit the author of this article.
The following text will hopefully put some thoughts into your head and make you think once more over what lifestyle you want and what your true desire is.
Your Life Is Not Yours
Many will say "this is exactly what I am seeking". Is it really? Are you ready to do all that you are instructed regardless of how much it turns your stomach? I found that most are not.
The simple truth is that few can exist in this type of relationship. Slavery is a tough way to live. One has no say in anything that occurs. Tremendous self discipline is required to succeed. One needs to be self confident to behave in a manner that the Mistress desires. It certainly is not for the weak.
Get Over Sex
The Internet glorifies the sexual aspect of this life. Every image promotes people being tied up in all kinds of positions and used in many kinky ways. Sadly, this is a misrepresentation of the M/s life. A slave does not often serve in this capacity. Instead, the days are filled with cooking, cleaning, washing, and all the other tasks that the Mistress requires. We never see images of the slave pushing around the vacuum cleaner but that is more representative of what the life is.
Negative Connotation
Your likes are disregarded. What you want is of no consequence whatsoever. The only thing that matters is how you serve the one who is in charge. Property is often the term used to describe a slave. Your sole purpose is to please her.
Are you ready to give up all you like and live in this manner? Anything you have or can do is with permission. You have no rights after she/he meets the basic needs. The clothes you wear are on loan to you. If she/he prefers you naked, that is how it is to be. This sounds sexy and erotic to many until you consider that this can happen in front of your family at Christmas dinner. There are not limitations upon you fulfilling what she wants.
Wants Versus Needs
If you do not believe me, consider all that you have. My question is "will you die if you do not have it"? While you might mistakenly think so, the truth is that outside of what was mentioned, you will not. Thus, everything you see before you is a want. And, if you enter M/s, there is a chance that it all will be removed from you. Are you ready for this?
"Yes, Ma`am"
Some Mistresses will allow a slave to interact with her/him on an equal basis at certain times and in appropriate manner. This is where self discipline enters the picture. There are many times where a slave needs to keep his/her mouth shut and accept what is being directed. "Yes Ma`am" is the only appropriate response.
Being sassy is not cute. Many feel that being a wiseass is a way to a Mistress` heart. Grow up. The online community might put up with this nonsense but a true Mistress will not. She is not in this lifestyle to play games. Nor is it expected that you will make her/his life more difficult. A slave is owned to make one's life easier. Continually fighting with a smartaleck slave is a waste of time. That is a surefire path to release.
Being A Dumbass
A slave needs to watch, learn, and monitor what is pleasing to the Mistress. Nothing is more frustrating than dealing with someone who continually needs to be told what to do every moment of the day. A slave needs to learn what is expected and to assume control of the actions a Mistress wants completed.
Sadly, few I encounter online are able to live like this. The ones who are stating they are not doormats tend to show themselves to be total dumbasses. They want to approach this way without the maturity necessary to succeed in a M/s relationship. Often I need to check to see if I am on an adult site or the Cartoon Network. Seriously, so many want to behave like children.
It's A Wonderful Life
If you are one who wants to serve, then M/s could be your calling. Of course, before entering into any type of arrangement, I would stress that you get clear about what you want. This is not for the faint of heart. Having someone take care of all your needs and make the tough decisions holds great appeal. Nevertheless, it is not without a price. You will be expected to fulfill your part of the equation. Obedience is your new keyword. If you can accept and go along with all that is set before you, then you have a chance. Just remember, your consent, once you submit, is not required. She/he is free to use you in any manner. "No" is removed.
Is this the life you want?